Mommy Katie: Your First Vacation Together: Essential Tips

Wednesday, April 26, 2017

Your First Vacation Together: Essential Tips


You’re in a new relationship and you’re looking forward to your first romantic trip. For many couples, their first trip turns into a real test. Even if you like traveling, every trip is stressful. If it’s your first experience of spending a vacation together, be ready for tons of surprises and revelations, both pleasant and not very pleasant ones. Especially, if you haven’t moved in yet but keep dating, stay over at each other’s places occasionally, and spend weekends together.

According to psychologists, a trip together is an important milestone in a couple’s relationship because stress and unusual situations unsettle people revealing some previously concealed traits. If your relationship has a potential to develop into a long-term one, your first trip will help you understand each other better and realize whether you’re compatible. Dating experts behind the site where men can meet Vava Girls recommend embarking on a trip already during your dating stage.

Preparations
Before going on a trip, discuss some crucial points. There are some delicate matters that should be agreed beforehand.

Discuss your budget. Unfortunately, the financial part of a trip is often a deterrent. Estimate your budget and allocate some money for unforeseen expenses. It’s important to discuss your preferences – probably, you have different views on an ideal vacation. If you dream about a luxury hotel by the sea and your partner likes to hitchhike and sleep in tents, you may have a sort of disagreement.

Discuss how you’ll manage your budget. This is another important finance-related question to discuss in advance. If you don’t live together and don’t have a common budget, it’s better to make it clear who will pay for what during your vacation. In some couples, a man finances the whole trip while some partners decide to split the expenses. Find out what kind of couple you are.

Discuss potential stressful situations. Tell your partner about the things that usually worry you on the road. Here are some questions to ask each other to avoid misunderstanding.

-          If you need to hurry up, does it encourage you or make you nervous and oblivious?

-          Do you like to spend your vacation in a “lazy mode” or you get quickly bored and want to do something active?

-          Do you like to visit museums and go on excursions?

You should pay special attention to the question, “What would we do if..?” If an unpredictable situation occurs, it often causes a quarrel between partners. That is why you should think about possible troubles and how you’re going to react to them.

Things to Do and Avoid on a Trip
In order to make your joint vacation facilitate your relationship, you should follow simple rules.

Don’t be Siamese twins. For many couples, their first trip together turns into a trial just because they have to be together 24/7. Even if you already live under the same roof, you don’t spend so much time inseparably. On the one hand, living like a couple during your trip is a great training for your relationship. But on the other hand, the fact that you’re together on a trip doesn’t oblige you to spend every single minute with your partner. If you want to go to the beach and your partner wants to go on an excursion, don’t be afraid to spend some time apart following your interests. It will give you some time to start missing each other.

Make new friends. A common mistake of many couples is focusing on each other without noticing people around. Be open to others; make acquaintances among locals and other tourists, either individually or together. You can meet other couples and hang out together.

Use each other’s strong points and ignore weaknesses. There is something your partner is bad at and it becomes especially apparent during your vacation. Perhaps, your loved one doesn’t know a local language or drives awfully or feels shy to talk to the staff or lacks all sense of direction. It’s OK. You’re not an ideal person either. Just ignore all those minor flaws and focus on your partner’s merits. Probably, your partner bargains with local merchants like a pro and you can read maps easily. Use your talents and encourage each other. It will make your couple a team and create pleasant memories from your first trip together.





3 comments:

Jerry Marquardt said...

I love these fine tips and pointers on enjoying that all important vacation. Once you are on the vacation, it all goes so fast, so this really helps my family.

Maryann D. said...

This is all good advice for the first vacation. I could have used this advice many years ago when I was dating my current husband.
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1AlwaysNYC 1 said...

So many rules. It just seems more complicated.